Please remember to eat as much ice cream cake as you want and not worry if people are judging you for it. Ignore the upturned noses, pick up that fork and come on over. I some important things to share with you.
First and surprisingly, I’ve learned that adults don’t have life figured out. It seems like it with their nice jobs, college degrees and fancy vocabulary. Don’t be fooled. In many ways, they don’t know what they’re doing. So, it’s perfectly okay that you don’t either.
1. There will always be someone who is “better” than you. Through trial and error, I’ve realized it’s not worth it to put value on your ability to be the prettiest, the smartest or the richest. Anyone who loves you won’t care about that stuff. If they do they’re a noob (meaning: they’re still awesome deep, deep down, they just have their own issues to work through).
2. Social media is a plastic rose. What might seem romantic is super fake. Those people on Instagram with the “perfect” pictures are just like you. They take those kinds of pictures to earn YOUR likes! The more likes, the better they feel but when the likes go down… well, their mood goes down with them.
3. Just because someone has an opinion about you, doesn’t mean it’s true. You probably remember this because, I mean, technically you’re me. In middle school, my classmates avoided me because they thought I was weird. Newsflash. I’m still “weird” but people are now drawn to me because of it. I even get invited to speak at things because of my “weird” ideas.
4. Grades don’t define your worth. School is a bit of a messy mick muckle. Out of all my rants related to the schooling system, I will tell you this: just because you didn’t get an A doesn’t make you a failure, no matter what your friends, the teacher or your mom says. Love you, Mom!
5. Friendships will change, and that’s okay. Friends come and go. One year you’ll get along better with so-and-so. Next year, they might move on. When do they, know there’s nothing wrong with you, it’s normal. Don’t beat yourself up about migrating friends or changes in interest. People to befriend will always be around.
6. Being the most popular girl in school won’t matter in a year. Really though, just like migrating friends, they rise and fall from favor. When school is finished, people won’t recognize them as the Queen Bee.
7. Being popular can suck. Being at the top and always trying to maintain the power is tough. I remember dating a guy who made all the girls swoon. When we broke up, someone else quickly rose to the occasion and starting dating him. My reign and fame had ended. The time I could have spent doing more valuable things, seemed to be wasted.
8. It’s okay to be wrong. School teaches us it’s not okay to be wrong. Trust me, that’s how the most vibrant, financially well-off people got their start. They made a tonne of mistakes! Don’t be afraid to speak up and let yourself be wrong.
So, you’re more than what you feel, there’s a purpose to your life and you’re rocking it already! Keep enjoying that cake. Love you Princess.
A slightly older K.L.P