“Comparison will cause you to be prideful or depressed but never fulfilled…” – Lisa Bevere
We’ve all felt it.
You’re walking into your favorite store in the mall, feeling pretty. The sun is shining. You’re wearing your favorite off-the-shoulder shirt.
Today you even tried brushing your hair!
Who are we kidding? Five hairstyles later and here we are… but no one needs to know that!
You catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror and let your gaze linger for I second or two. Not bad at all.
You blink then BAM, you see her standing there with her perfect hair, enviable curves and designer clothing.
Miss Perfect slips on a pair of Guess sunglasses and poses for a group selfie. As her friends huddle close, you can’t help but notice, her skin is flawless. No filter required.
A group of guys walks past. Heads turn. One of them trips and falls into a kid with an ice cream cone. The kid starts wailing.
You wish it was socially acceptable to join him.
Man-bun Manny behind the counter is eye-balling Miss Perfect, probably figuring out the best way to snag her number.
You decide to leave and avoid the mirror on your way out. Your joy fizzles out like flat pop. The rest of the day, you try pulling yourself away from the thoughts.
If only my life looked like hers, then I would be happy.
Yeah, I’ve been through it and it SUCKS.
Maybe you don’t have the hots for Manny but whatever reason your joy bubble has been popped, it is SO important to get it back.
And it is possible.
Tell God you’ve been comparing yourself to others. Nothing you say surprises Him. Talk to Him about the way you’ve been feeling. Let Him know how inferior you feel.
Apologize for believing lies. This makes room for truth.
Focus on the truth.
— You were made with the precision of God’s hand. He is MESMERIZED by you – Psalm 139:14
— There’s a reason why you are you. God made you JUST the way He wanted to – Jeremiah 29:11
— God is kind of like that crazy friend at the party. He actually sings and dances because He’s so excited about you! – Jeremiah 20:11
Ladies, it may seem weird but it’s true: you will find confidence when you aren’t focusing on you. Stop looking at your “insufficiencies” and start looking at the beauty He sees. It will set you free from comparing yourself and launch you into a world of peace and JOY!
With much love,
Your choice to believe truth will shift your thinking and your world. You are made of powerful stuff.