Before diving into these tell tale signs, I want to share a funny story with you. It features me, and my now husband, Alexander.
A long, long time ago…before we knew each other Alex and I were both spending time at this house in Lethbridge called “The Flat”. We had both been invited for dinner by different people living in the house. Anyway, I love parties and am super hyper when attending them. To make matters more interesting I, by God’s grace, can impersonate Gollum really well and decided to treat my long suffering girlfriends to a show. Alex heard what I was doing from the other side of the room, proceeded to walk over and start communicating with me in his Gollum voice, which is 10x better than mine. We bantered back and forth for some time, all the while our audience watched. Soon, the two of us were in our own little world, tossing Gollum quotes back and forth like they were buttery warm potatoes (what?). We did need to came back to reality, where a smattering of applause and wild laughter met us. After we had all calmed down a little I found myself staring into his grey/green eyes then down at his forearms.
“Hi.” He stuck his hand out to me, laughing breathlessly. “I’m Alex and I’m single.”
And I am not kidding. This is how he introduced himself to me. It worked! Hehe, I pray for the same kind of obnoxiously “you” love story to take place on your homestead.
Anyhow, let’s get to those juicy tips (which have surprisingly very little relation to the story above…it feels so good to put the A team to sleep and unleash the random).
a) Does he set aside intention time to see and spend time with you? He sets aside time to spend with you. The life of a lot of people in the 21st century can be crazy busy, it usually is. We have deadlines, exams, entrepreneurial dreams to get off the ground and running. When a man takes time out of his day to spend it with you, that’s saying something…and if you ask me, what he’s saying is pretty loud and fairly clear.
b) Are his friends in on it? Read his friends…because if he likes you they will most likely tease, nudge or toss around little looks whenever you two are around each other. Cuuute.
c) He asks a lot of questions…and I mean A LOT! “Do you like books? What kind of books do you like? Where do you go to church? What is your favourite color, philosophy on life? Do you agree with Calvinism as a theology? What do you think of pugs? Pomeranians? Pomegranates?”
I think you get the point.
Just as in my last blog, I ask you to keep in mind the fact that just because he is exhibiting any one of these three behaviors doesn’t necessarily mean he is in to you but if all the pieces of the puzzle fit…he may be in to you.
As always, be sure to seek God on timing and whether or not this man may be a good fit for the path He has you on.
You just never know!
I am sitting here rather patiently with a nasty couple of gargantuan butterflies flitting around in my gastrointestinal (at least one cliché is necessary in this piece of work). My monster cheese bun and pre-sliced turkey shavings are set up neatly and off to the left hand side of me. To both of sides of my computer mounds of empty zip lock containers are piled high (I eat when I’m studying okay!). Fruit flies, who are compliments of my beautiful roommates’ festering potato bag, have awakened and leapt from my lunch bag. They threaten to cover the bun and meat in a wing-y, black blanket. Yuck to the moon and back.
Despite the danger, food is second priority. Before eating, I am waiting for my hands to warm and my heart to settle. I know I have a couple of thing to ponder on.
It sucks when life isn’t easy doesn’t it? It can hurt when we must wait for the things that mean most to us. I am waiting to feel affirmed by people around me. I am waiting to feel loved by those who know me the “best”. I am waiting to have a family draw me in close and let me know that everything is going to be okay.
“I am waiting to feel affirmed by the people around me”
Will these things ever happen? Will my heart be healed from its major losses and insecurities? Maybe. But what if there’s too much to be waiting for?
I am also waiting to see what kind of grades I will be getting this semester. I am waiting to hear if I will win a spot in the University’s education program. I am waiting to know if I am good enough. Good enough? Will I ever be good enough? I need to stop waiting! When will it ever stop being a necessity? Seriously.
“Good enough? Will I ever be good enough?”
Okay. So. I don’t want this blog to be one that ends with a cute little, “everything is okay and this is how we overcome it.” I must admit that sometimes life and circumstances really sucks. That familial void may be more than our hearts can take so overwhelming at times that we don’t know what to do with it. (Run to Jesus; spend time in the Psalms). Seriously. That much I know.
“Run to Jesus; spend time in the Psalms. Seriously.”
A little piece of meat to take away from this abrupt blog post is as follows: we need to run to Jesus and try to devour our lunches before the fruit flies do.